Dear Friends,
I feel I must apologize for taking
so long to write this. I have been very
excited and yet hesitant to share this entry. Oh well, here goes nothing. My parents have raised me to be marriage
minded. As I have grown up we have
returned to the topic many times. Unlike
most guys, I’ve often thought about my wedding and also taken metal notes for
future use as the Lord Wills.
My Dad always told me to get my
education and establish my life direction before pursuing romance and
marriage. I always wanted to marry young
like my parents, so waiting was hard. In
my early twenties I once asked my Mom when I would know it was a good time to
start seriously thinking about marriage.
Her response? “When all your
friends start getting married.” This is not by any means a sole factor, but
interestingly enough, it seems that these days my friends younger siblings are
getting married in droves.
Before I go any further, let me be
clear. I’m not saying it is a bad thing
to wait on God or that it is a bad thing to be single. I firmly believe that we should seek God in
ALL we do, this area being not only included, but perhaps most important. “House
and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the Lord.”
(Proverbs 19:10) I simply believe that I
(along with the majority of men) was created to need a helpmeet
I have many friends who are girls
and to put it quite simply, without their presence my life would be boring and
colorless. I am so thankful for many
young ladies in my life. It seems to me
however that whenever I express interest in a young lady an interest that goes
beyond friendship, she turns and runs the other way as fast as she can. Now perhaps I am overstating things ever so
slightly, but quite frankly, it hurts.
I know that marrying will be a
challenge for me and my bride, but nothing in my life has come easy. I often feel like a good motto for my life
would be “Working twice as hard to prove that I am just as good,” I feel much
the same way in my quest for a life partner. I just want a chance to prove myself in this
area as with so many others.
I am not perfect. I have flaws.
But I am also a godly man seeking righteousness. I have been taught by my father what it means
to be a Family Shepherd. I have by word
and example been taught to value children and the truth “Husbands, love your
wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he
might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word.”
(Ephesians 5:25-26) I look forward to having
a godly young lady to love and cherish for life! :) I believe she will be an amazing asset to
Speaking4Him.
This
issue transcends romantic relationships though.
I’ve also faced challenges in regular day to day interactions with
friends and co-workers as well. It is
never easy and it is hard and down right frustrating at times. So why is this?, and (perhaps more importantly)
what can we do about it?
I
believe the main reason for this is fear of the unknown. I believe that some may think it is easier to
distance themselves from me than to be honest with me about their discomforts
relating to my disability. Sadly I have
experienced at least one definite case of this in a work setting and it was
heartbreaking. Honesty is a much better
option. Plus I am as open about my
challenges as anyone you’ll ever meet.
So if you have a question or
something about my disability makes you uncomfortable, be honest with me. Honest questions will always result in honest
answers. What’s more, we’ll both be
better for it and we might be lifelong friends!
I am very thankful for those who
have been faithful friends and family and seen beyond my wheelchair to the man
that God is molding in His time. God is
so good! He knows what He is doing and I
can trust Him. In closing, just know
that my accomplishments in life have not come about because I ignored the
“Brick Walls” my challenges created.
That would have just led to a bloody nose. Rather my accomplishments
have come because for every “Brick Wall” I have faced I have found sufficient
“Rope” to climb over each one and overcome to the Glory of God.
Speaking4Him,
Andrew Gommesen
